Last night I had another wedding nightmare. This one was one of the oddest. None of the vendors checked in with me on the day, and when I found my photographer, she was a HE. It was very bizarre. He was sitting in the back of the church complaining about how awful my wedding was, and not taking one damn photo!
Then I had to get the tips and pay the vendors, so I had to venture upstairs. I went through my bridal binder (which, for the record I’ve barely used) and I got so depressed about the small details I forgot to incorporate into the day, that I ended up missing the entire wedding. When I finally came downstairs, I was in my parents house. Jeremy was nowhere to be found, but my parents and in-laws were there, and they told me what a great party my wedding had been. None of them could understand why I was upset that I’d missed the entire thing!
Gah! We’re less than three months to go now, and I know my dreams are going to get worse as we get closer to the wedding. I also suspect that I’m probably going to have at least one more stress induced back accident. I’m going to have to be very careful not to throw my back out, which kind of goes against my plan to spend the 40 or so days prior to the wedding working out like a mad woman. I lost roughly 15 lbs. in two months before, so I know I can do it, but I really threw myself into it, pun intended. Yesterday I got a card in the mail for a local chiropractor, I put it on the fridge, as I wouldn’t be surprised if I had to make an appointment before wedding day.
I’ve already accepted that not everything at the wedding is going to go as planned and that odds are I won’t even get to see some of the details that I’ve worked so carefully on, and that’s okay. Most brides have spoken of at least one thing that didn’t go as planned on the day, but I don’t think I’ve never heard one say that they didn’t have a wonderful wedding day. I need to remember that in the coming weeks.
To say that I’ve been going slightly stir-crazy being home by myself for the last two days would be an understatement. Thankfully I am feeling about 80% better, so I’m going back to work tomorrow after one more day on muscle relaxers. I should be tap-dancing down the street, and best of all, I just have to work one day and then I’m off for the 4th of July. I’ve had plenty of time to look for pretty things for my wedding, and I found the most adorable cupcake flags on etsy. Do I need cupcake flags? Of course not, but these were too cute not to use.
I’m having etsy seller laurenmakes customize her already adorable wedding flags with our wedding colors and fonts. Aren’t they the cutest?
I was also going to get fancy cupcake wrappers, but since Estilo Weddings is on hiatus, I’ve scrapped that plan. There are a few cupcake wrappers in the knot shop, but none that I really love. I think the cupcake flags will do the job just fine!
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On top of all the crap that has happened this month, on Friday I pulled a muscle in my back. Yesterday I went to the doctors and got some meds, but I’m not feeling 100% yet. Luckily he told me I could stay home from work for two days so I am. I’m hoping I’ll feel better, otherwise I have to go back for x-rays on Wednesday!
Ugh! Sorry for any typos, I wrote this on my phone.
As I mentioned last week, Jeremy’s family is going through some issues right now. I’m not going to get into specifics, but it involves a particular family member making some very, very bad choices. I really can’t stand the sight of this person right now, and guess what? This person is in our wedding party.
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So what to do? Of course my first instinct is to tell this person they’re not allowed within 100 miles of my wedding. But part of marriage is compromise, and dealing with people you’d rather punch in the face than be nice to. This is something I have a hard time with. Jeremy’s family is not like mine. I’m from the “scream first, apologize later” school, where he comes from the “let’s forget it didn’t happen and/or have a passive aggressive fight seven months from now when you don’t even remember what I’m talking about” school. I have a hard time pretending like nothing happened, and an even harder time pretending to like people. I’m an open book. If I don’t like you? You’re usually aware of it, because my body language is a giveaway.
So, we’re both dealing with it. I get angry when I see how upset everything is making Jeremy and his family, and my first instinct is to want to inflict verbal assault on the person causing this pain. I’m hoping this urge fades with time and by the wedding I can stand being in the same room with this person without feeling that awkwardness in the pit of my stomach.
Failing that, our coordinator will be instructed to keep this person as far away from me as possible, as I tend to word vomit when I’m emotional, and I don’t need drama on my wedding day. Here’s to hoping for the best!
First of all, thanks to the kind people who dropped by to leave positive comments for me. It’s been one hell of a week. On top of my fiance’s family troubles, one of my douchenozzle co-workers quit with one day’s notice. Seems like his miserable old soul got a special kind of glee leaving us in a lurch. Sucks to be him, as I think we’ll be just fine. And on top of all THAT, I’ve been closely following the troubles in Iran. It’s where I was born, and though I’m not Iranian myself (my dad was a military attache stationed there before the revolution) I have always had a special place in my heart for the beautiful country where I was born.
ANYWAY. Posting will probably be light again for the next couple of weeks, but I wanted to share a small update. We decided to go with Tiebar.com for our grooms and possibly dad’s ties. Their prices can’t be beat (all ties are $15), and they have several great designs in a variety of colors.
We’ve decided to go with this design for our groomsmen:
And the jury’s still out on the dad’s ties (I’m not sure if I can get my dad to agree to wearing purple!) but I’m hoping for one of the following.
I had wanted to go with something a bit more edgy for our groomsmen ties, but I’ve reached the point in my planning where I’m letting things go. It just doesn’t matter!
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Posting will be light this week. I’m feeling pretty apathetic about all things wedding, mainly due to the fact that yesterday we received some news that has shocked my fiance’s family. I’ve been trying to deal with a heartbroken fiance, and trying to deal with my own feelings about the situation.
I’ll be back when my wedding mojo returns.
My DIY skills are somewhat akin to the average six year old’s. I never excelled in arts & crafts, mainly because I have zero patience. While my sister drew and learned cross-stitch, my skills stopped with the latch-hook rug. I knew that any DIY project I attempted for the wedding would have to be quick and easy.
I have two such projects to share today. They are so easy you could give them to your flower girl to do.
The first is a bridal shower thank you card. I got my shower invite in the mail today (yay!) and I decided to make a thank you card for my MOH. I used Martha Steward note cards and a set of scrapbook embellishments to make the card. Nic, if you’re reading, skip this post!
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I just got photos from Kristin at Twin Ravens Press, our invitations are done! I’m really pleased with how they turned out. Simple and elegant. While I like a lot of contemporary invitations, I knew that I probably wouldn’t in ten years time. Why does this matter? Well, my parents wedding invitation has been hanging in their house my whole life. I knew I wanted to do the same with ours, so I wanted to make sure I was going to like it if I was going to be looking at it when I’m 50.
Kristin altered a design that she had created for another Baltimore bride & groom. Their set was a bit more involved than ours (one of their inserts was a gorgeous letterpressed map!) but I liked it instantly. The only real changes we made were to the fonts, the colors, and our invitations do not have ribbon detailing like theirs, but that’s mainly because I didn’t want to pay extra postage or worry about smooshed ribbon on our invites in our guests’ mailboxes.
She actually took quite a few more photos than I’m showing here, but a lot of them have our address or other personal information and would look gross blurred out with my lazy ass MS Paint skills. I think these photos get the point across.
Here’s an up close shot of the letterpress!
I love the internet. It helps me find things that I didn’t even know existed, but now that I’ve seen them, I must have, now, now, now!
Case in point, custom dice. I came across an awesome post on a Livejournal community about an even more awesome wedding (they’re having Lego centerpieces, OMGWTF!) in that post, the bride posted photos of the custom dice favors she had made. So, naturally I had to know where she got them, and she told me she got them made from chessex.com. I fired off an e-mail and got a response very quickly. Not only could they do the custom dice for me, but they could even do it on a purple one! W’hoo!
Here’s what they’ll look like!
I had a lovely surprise in my inbox today, our lovely ring bowl arrived! I knew I’d wanted to go with a ring bowl so we’d have somewhere to store our rings after the wedding, but I really didn’t care for a lot of the ones I kept seeing all over the place. I wanted something a bit more, well, us!
Enter sayyourpiece on etsy! I loved her work and the wedding ring bowl especially, so I requested a custom piece. I’m so pleased with how it turned out, I know it will remind us of our wedding day every day we use it! Best of all, I don’t have to worry about the best man losing the rings, as I will tie them to the bowl and have our coordinator give the bowl to him before the ceremony.
The front:
