Guest list drama already?!
Our invitations arrived in most of our guests’ mailboxes yesterday. Last night I get an e-mail from my mother saying my aunt e-mailed her asking if my step-cousin was invited. Uh, no? I haven’t seen this girl since I was about 13, and she was 16 and pregnant. She has a history of drug abuse and other run-ins with the law. That is only a small reason as to why she’s not invited. The major reason is that I haven’t seen her in over twenty years, and I’d only met her a few times back then.
My mother responds that they don’t want ruffled feathers, so they’ll pay for her and her boyfriend. UH, NO WAY. I think I have been a pretty damned good bride throughout my planning process. I have not asked much, if anything from our parents and bridal party. But this is one issue that I’m putting my foot down on. If I haven’t seen you since I was a child, YOU’RE NOT COMING TO MY EFFING WEDDING.
My dad’s side of the family can be pretty damned tacky. I know she’d show up, help herself to two or three servings of the buffet, have three or four beers and leave. Having them at my wedding would piss me off. So, if my behavior means I’m a bridezilla, then so be it. You’re not invited. I told my mother to have my aunt contact me directly if need be. We’re on a budget. For every extra guest, that costs us about $50 in food and rentals. We can’t afford it. We’re in a recession, so one would hope that my family would understand this!
UGH. I hate it that this has made me so damned mad, but I really don’t have much goodwill in my heart for my dad’s side of the family anyway. Of his four living brothers, I’m only somewhat close to one of them, and the others I haven’t seen since my grandfather died in 1997!
How did you deal with unwanted guests at your wedding?
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